Tomorrow, Snowball/Kolar will lose his tail.
Since the last update, nothing much has changed. ML continued to send emails, telling us about the things she’s trying, researching or doing to help her brood integrate. Needless to say, we’re very heartened to see how she continues valiantly.
Today, we got another update. But this time, it’s different – ML sounded very sad and grave, unlike the upbeat and hopeful tone she usually speaks with. His tail is troubling him again, and this time, it’s so bad, tests are being done. The vet suspected cancer and recommended amputating it immediately, as it seemed quite aggressive and looks set to reach the anus soon. The tests outcome would not be known for another 3 days, but ML is worried that it may be too late for him. At the same time, she is worried that if his tail is amputated now, and it turns out to be non-cancerous, she may have caused him to suffer unnecessarily. Also, she is worried over the impact on his self-esteem and temperament should he lose his tail. We told her about some of the handicapped cats at Foster Mum’s, who are none the worse for wear, and also comforted her that he could do with a bit less self-esteem, and also that he is beautiful regardless of his tail.
I told her that on the bright side, it may help bring his aggressiveness down a peg or two and help with peace in the home. Also, when we first got him back, btmao and I had actually discussed the possibility that we may have to arrange for the same procedure at some point in time if his tail bothers him so much. Also, the vet has said that if it is cancer, it might not just be his tail. We shared Joe’s story to show that Kolar’s problem is at least operable, and Milly’s story to allay her worries about making decisions, and to let her know we understand how she feels and that she has our empathy.
ML also requested for us to call his ex-adopter, to find out if they’ve noticed or know anything that could confirm if his problem is cancer. Also, and here she sounded angry – though on his behalf, she wanted to know if he was returned because the ex-adopter knew about this problem. Too bad, the line has been disconnected. The ex-adopter was all teary when she returned him, and she even promised to visit him… to date, she has not even bothered to ask about him, whether through email or sms.
Kolar is definitely better off with his new family now. Please spare a kind thought for Snowball/Kolar and his folks.