This evening ended on a sour note. I sms’d PH, adopter of Itchy and Scratchy (no more Mum – she’s shown herself undeserving of it).
I wanted to get an update about Scratchy’s babies – whether our help’s still needed to get them rehomed. I must point out that our last message to her to get pictures and keep in contact went unheeded. This time, as ever, I’m the one initiating contact.
I missed PH’s call and when i returned her call at 5.20pm, the first thing she said to me: “Please take the two kittens away.”
My vein throbbed. I composed myself and asked her how was the adoption effort – she told me the same story about her sole attempt she had already related previously. I asked about her children, grown professionals with high-flying careers, whether she’s asked them to help ask around. She said no, whatever it means.
I then asked whether the kittens are socialised, especially the b&w one. She said they are. I then told her I’ve discussed with Foster Mum and she has agreed to foster them. However, she can only take them after Chinese New Year. I also informed her that the boarding costs.
There was a pregnant pause. PH repeated the boarding fee amount, and then paused again. Then she asked” I have to pay that?” I said “Yes”.
PH started shouting, harping about the non-sterilised state ofItchy and Scratchy, adamant that it was Foster Mum/our fault. I calmly told her: “Please don’t shout.”
Then I told her she’s not the only one upset. During the adoption screening, she had said that her old cat died from FiV problems and he was fed Friskies. When I raised my concerns about food, she had reassured me that she had been told the problems with Friskies. I even sms’d basic info and brands she should be considering (because she doesn’t use email). When we first visited the cats in early Oct, I even brought along copies of food info for her reference. When we visited the cats and the kittens in Dec, we saw that the food they were being given was worse than Friskies.
So I told her i’m very upset she’s not taking care of the cats. She said it’s her children who bought the food. She also said they would only buy good food that the petshops recommended. I told her point-blank that that food we saw was not something any petshop would recommend. She went silent for a moment and then said her children loves animals. I said fine, but do they understand the problems of that food? Did she share the printed info I gave her with them?
She said, “maybe, maybe not. I’m very busy” and, I quote, “can’t be bothered about such small things”. I was having trouble containing my temper but I did manage to say civilly, “PH, how can you say that. They are your pets and this concerns their health!”
She refused to continue the discussion and ended by saying that they will think of something and settle the two unwanted kittens themselves.
I sent an sms at 6.20pm or so, telling her to call me after she’s calmed down to discuss the fate of the unwanted kittens, and that no matter what she decided, to please not send them to SPCA or AVA to be killed. I’ve not got a response so far. I can only hope she’s thinking.
I feel that I’ve failed Angel, Austen and Aaren, and now Aaren’s kittens. It’s a painful lesson in trust and my screening capability, but one I will not forget.
EDIT: I am disappointed at the outcome of this conversation. But I have been expecting it. The signs are there. Also, there is an adopter willing to take one of the kittens, and at worst, we’ll shoulder the boarding expenses of the other kitten – it’s not the first time we strain and stretch our resources. But I am too upset to talk to PH right now.